Connection and communication are two huge factors in life. I do not believe one can achieve happiness with out these two things. With out an initial connection there is nothing that gives you the driving force to proceed and with out communicating the connection Inevitably dies.
Connection is something that is found within another person, place or thing. It is something that grabs hold of you and draws you to it. A factor that makes you want to embrace it in the first place. Once you get involved in the connection you have to take time and embrace it. You have to be motivated to put in the work and help nourish the connection that you have developed.
You can not see a beautiful flower and decide that you want it and just bring it home and set it on the counter. You can not just hope the flower will take care of itself, it can not. It needs to be loved by the sun to give it energy, nourished by water and have a strong and steady base to dig in it's roots. Only then will it have the strength to bloom.